청소년 자녀와 갈등하는 목회자 부모의 심리사회적 경험연구

Abstract

The purpose of this study is to reveal in-depth the experiences of pastoral parents who conflict with adolescent children and to cope with them phenomenologically. The sub-research question on this is: What is the characteristic of the psychosocial experience of the pastoral parents in case of conflict with adolescent children, and how do the pastoral parents cope with conflicts with adolescent children? To this end, in-depth interviews were conducted with 8 parents who scored 123 points or higher on the conflict IC scale with adolescent children. They were homeroom pastors, associate pastors, and pastors' wives who currently work as Protestants and have 15 years or more of ministry experience. As a result of analyzing the data collected based on the statements of the participants by applying the Colaizzi analysis method among the phenomenological research methods, this study derived 126 constitutive meanings, 42 subjects, and 16 subject groups. The characteristics found in this study of the psychosocial experience of the pastoral parents in conflict with adolescent children are regret for neglecting their children because of pastoral ministry, disappointment because of having difficulty guiding their children with faith, shame when their children neglect church life, anxiety when their adolescent children deviate, anxiety about being evaluated as a successful pastor, confusion about differences in the way couples raise their children, frustration because children have trouble communicating with their parents, resentment because of adolescent children who are disrespectful to their parents, sadness because of poor pastoral reality and regret for not protecting their families' privacy. The pastoral parents who cope with the conflict with adolescent children are 'maintaining psychological distance in case of conflict with adolescent children, lowering worldly expectations of adolescent children, waiting for their children to develop faith on their own, communicating with their children by opening positive slides, recognizing the poor image of parents by adolescent children and serving as a fence for family privacy.' The results of this study can be used as basic consultation data to understand the psychosocial experiences of pastoral parents who have conflicts with their adolescent children. It can provide practical help for raising their adolescent children with pastoral activities. In addition, uncovering the coping of pastoral parents who have conflicts with their adolescent children can be used as base data for developing various education and programs to prevent conflicts between pastors' parents and their adolescent children and for family counseling for pastors' families.