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배우자이상화와 결혼만족도: 의사소통 패턴의 매개효과

Partner-Idealization and Marital Satisfaction: The Mediating Role of Communication Patterns

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한국사회및성격심리학회|2018.02|한국심리학회지: 사회및성격 (Korean Journal of Social and Personality Psychology)|제32권 제1호|pp. 65-81|DOI 10.21193/kjspp.2018.32.1.004

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결혼만족도marital satisfaction이상화긍정적 환상연인관계갈등 의사소통idealizationpositive illusionsromantic relationshipconflict communication
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본 연구에서는 배우자이상화(배우자를 배우자 자신이 평가하는 것보다 더 이상적 배우자에 가깝다고 평가하는 것)가 본인 및 배우자의 결혼만족도와 어떤 상관이 있는지 살펴보고, 그 과정에서 세 가지 의사소통 패턴(건설적 의사소통, 남편요구-아내철회, 아내요구-남편철회)의 역할을 확인하고자 하였다. 78쌍의 부부가 자기 자신, 배우자, 그리고 이상형의 성격에 대해 응답하고, 의사소통 패턴과 결혼만족도에 대한 척도에 답변하였다. 연구 결과 남녀 모두 배우자를 이상화하는 것은 본인과 배우자의 높은 결혼만족도와 관련이 있었다. 또한 남편의 배우자이상화와 아내의 배우자이상화는 각각 아내가 지각하는 부부의 건설적 의사소통을 통해 두 사람의 높은 결혼만족도로 이어지는 것으로 나타났다. 아내의 배우자이상화와 결혼만족도 간의 정적 관계는 아내가 지각하는 낮은 남편요구-아내철회 및 낮은 아내요구-남편철회 패턴이 매개하였다. 아내의 배우자이상화와 남편의 결혼만족도 간의 정적 관계는 아내가 지각한 낮은 아내요구-남편철회 패턴을 통해 매개되었다. 종합해보면, 사람들은 자신이 이상화하거나 자신을 이상화하는 배우자와의 결혼생활에서 더 만족감을 느끼며 이 과정에서 아내가 부부의 의사소통 방식을 어떻게 지각하는지가 중요한 역할을 하고 있었다. 본 연구의 결과는 배우자에 대한 지각이 결혼만족도에 장․단기적으로 미칠 수 있는 영향에 대한 시사점을 제공한다.

Abstract

The aim of the present research was to examine whether partner-idealization (i.e., perceiving one's partner more closely to one's ideal partner than partner's own self-perception) is related to one's own and the partner's marital satisfaction and to explore the role of communication patterns (constructive communication, husband demand-wife withdraw, and wife demand-husband withdraw) in that process. Seventy-eight married couples rated themselves, their partner, and an ideal partner on interpersonal qualities, and responded to measures of communication patterns and marital satisfaction. The results showed that for both husbands and wives, higher partner-idealization was related to one's own and the partner's greater marital satisfaction. We also found that either partner's partner-idealization was related to wife's report of more constructive communication, which in turn was related to both partners' greater marital satisfaction. The positive relation between wife's partner-idealization and her own marital satisfaction was mediated by low wife-perceived husband demand-wife withdraw and wife demand-husband withdraw patterns. The positive relation between wife's partner-idealization and husband’s marital satisfaction was mediated by low wife-perceived wife demand-husband withdraw pattern. Taken together, individuals who idealized their partner or were idealized by their partner were more satisfied in their relationship, and how wives came to perceive the communication patterns played an important role in this process. We discussed the implications of this study for the short- and long-term effects of partner perceptions on marital satisfaction.

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