가정폭력 가해자의 목회상담적 접근 - 보웬의 자아분화를 중심으로 -

Abstract

The experience of domestic violence directly or indirectly affects both the perpetrator and the victim. Family members live with anxiety due to violence, which faces various difficulties in continuing their lives. This researcher examined Bowen's pastoral counseling approach through self-differentiation from a systematic perspective on domestic violence perpetrators. Since humans live in an organic relationship, it is important to understand the psychological parts, family systems, and perpetrator psychology that are intertwined between families. Since the feelings of suppressed anger caused by anxiety are feelings of uncontrolled wounds in the situation we face, an approach and a solution to how to deal with the feelings of the perpetrators of violence are needed. It is necessary to look at the perpetrators of violence in terms of psychological, social, and spiritual aspects. In terms of psychosocial aspects, this researcher has unfairness, shame, self-deprecating mind, and low self-esteem in the psychological and social aspects of domestic violence. The perpetrator of violence always regrets and promises not to do it after the violence, but is dominated by emotions and repeatedly uses violence. In this respect, it is important to recognize that the perpetrator of domestic violence becomes a slave of emotion and uses violence, and to look at the vicious circle of violence. Bowen's self-differentiation refers to the ability to separate emotions and thoughts, and it is to think reasonably by maximizing the function of reason without being biased toward emotions. By structuring a family system that can break the vicious cycle of violence in angry or angry situations, it was intended to suggest a recovery plan to achieve a change in the thinking of violent perpetrators and form a healthy family system. Therefore, this study approached Bowen's systematic perspective on understanding what the psychology of domestic violence perpetrators is and the problem of violence. Bowen made self-differentiation the biggest goal of treatment, and the core of the theory is deltoid. The family's way of life is passed down as Abitus, influencing the family's cognition, perception, thinking, and behavior. Differentiation in the family occurs due to marital problems, and marital problems are also projected to spouses or children who show symptoms. First, this researcher examined the perspective of violence and dysfunctional characteristics of domestic violence families, second, a plan to restore conflict in the family system due to a triangular relationship in the family system, and third, the role of counselors through a pastoral counseling approach. To this end, the pastoral care of the pastor counselor will help the client look at the feelings of anxiety and anger in a balanced manner, and it is expected to guide the client to find psychological stability to live a healthy life.