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Forgiveness in Marriage
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본 논문은 결혼 관계에 있어서 용서가 차지하는 중요성을 논증하고 있다. 이 를 위해 결혼에 대한 창조질서가 어떤 원리를 가지고 있는지 살펴본다. 또한 결혼과 관련한 성경의 주요 구절들을 통해 부부 관계에 있어서 용서의 필요성 을 강조하고 있다. 하나님과 그 분의 백성과의 관계가 결혼 관계로 비유되어진 것이 중요하게 부각된다. 결혼에 있어서 언약, 사랑, 그리고 용서의 연관 관계 를 추적하며, 사랑과 용서의 긴밀한 관련성을 밝히고 있다. 더 나아가 치료 현 장에서 부부 관계의 회복에 용서가 어떻게 도움을 주는 지를 제시한다. 용서를 치료 도구로 접근한 방법들을 구분하고, 이들이 제시하는 용서 과정의 요소 중 에서 겸손과 공감을 집중적으로 살펴본다. 자기애와 수치가 겸손과 공감을 가 로 막는 성격적 성향임을 지적한다. 겸손과 공감이 용서를 위한 전략적 기술의 역할 만이 아니고, 용서를 가능하게 하고 용서로 인해서 훈련되는 성격이라는 측면에서 접근하고 있다.
Abstract
This paper begins with several biblical passages which deal with principles for marriage. What we find in the Bible is the use of marriage as a paradigm or model for understanding and insight about relationship between God and his people. According to his principles, the reality of a reconciled marriage of man and woman in Christ depends on the gifts of divine forgiveness and human forgiveness. Then, this paper reviews the literatures addressing forgiveness as a therapeutic issue. Techniques and processes of forgiveness are summarized for finding the important characters in marriage. Mature forgivers are characterized by two primary virtues: humility and empathy. Narcissism and shame are the natural barriers to empathy and humility. The spouses need healing from false or undeserved shame, not only from narcissism and guilt. Forgiveness is described as requiring empathy for the offender, and humility to see oneself as being as fallible and needy as the offender.
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